Friday, July 20, 2012

Beirut prepares for Baby's arrival

Well, not mine. It's still a little too soon. After all, Jad's only four months old, and Mia was (already?) six months old when I got pregnant with him so we still have a few weeks ahead of us.

Umm. Pause.

Now before I scare myself any further, allow me to move on. A friend on Twitter asked me what I thought were good places to shop and prepare for a new baby. My (humble) views follow.

When we prepared for Mia, hubby did all of the nesting in Dubai by himself and I honestly did not worry much about Lebanon. After all, I was only going to stay for a couple of months. But we still needed the basics.

1) A bed.

My mom got my brother's old wooden basket from my grandparent's home and it is just so beautiful I was completely convinced not to get a new one. It is a white oval basket with handmade covers like the ones you see in the old movies. And because it is 20-something old, it is robust. They don't make baby furniture like that anymore. So this is what I used for both Mia and Jad's first couple of months. I'm sorry I can't really give more useful information on beds which I know can be quite expensive and need to be of high quality and safety standards. But I will say this. Moses baskets are only usable the first two or three months. Then once the baby gets bigger and starts to try to grab and hang on to things, they become unpractical and even dangerous. Cribs are a must. I believe they all come with adjustable heights for the mattress which means that in the first few months during which baby cannot climb, you can keep the mattress at a comfortable height and not break your back. Travel cots even allow the heightened mattress to swing/rock which is a lifesavers at night feedings. Mia and Jad's travel cots in Lebanon have this feature and Mia's wooden crib in Dubai also allows for mattress height adjustments. Apparently, all baby beds are designed that way now.

In terms of prices, we got the Chicco travel cots in Lebanon which are fair [Sassine Asco Center 01.330449 | ABC 04.416000 | Metro 09.851300] as for Dubai, we got a rather expensive crib from Mamas and Papas which has also recently opened in Lebanon [Jnah 01.843223]. Cribs can be an investment and it all depends on your needs.

In Lebanon, I have no baby room so the foldable travel cots are perfect as we can fold and store them when we leave. Also, the mesh windows are soft and safe. In Dubai I had to use a padded cover to keep Mia from bumping into the wooden barrier. Mia's Chicco cot doesn't have wheels but her old one does and it can be a real added value if you want to move the bed to the sitting room for baby to play in it during the day. It's now Jad's bed. I've to admit, if I didn't have a cot with wheels, I'd have definitely gotten a new one for Jad. In Dubai we opted for a high quality wooden bed by Mamas and Papas that starts as a crib and develops as the child grows. When Mia's old enough, we can remove the barriers and it becomes a regular bed.

Read more about safety considerations when purchasing a cot bed here.

Mia's bed in Dubai - by Mamas and Papas
Mia's travel cot in Lebanon - by Chicco
Jad's travel cot in Lebanon
With wheels,
a changing table,
a cover (tent)  
Jad's travel cot in Lebanon
Notice the heightened mattress,
and the net that can also be attached to the tent (above)


2) A car seat

That may not seem like the second most important item on the list but it is. You'll need it the minute you decide to step out of the hospital. In some countries, it's even illegal for the doctors to discharge a baby if the parents do not have a car seat ready. We purchased ours in Dubai so I can't really help with that item regarding prices and availabilities in Lebanon. However, I can tell you we got it at Baby Shop which has a branch in Beirut [City Mall 01.872999]. 

We researched for a while before deciding on the Maxi-Cosi. The car seat that is used from birth to 6 months is also the seat we can plug on the Quinny stroller for that same age. It is always placed facing the parent so you can keep a close eye on baby while you're walking. When the child outgrows it, you can start using the regular, larger seat (see next section on strollers). 

Our Maxi-Cosi CabrioFix
Our Maxi-Cosi CabrioFix

Our Maxi-Cosi CabrioFix mounted on Quinny Buzz 

We've now upgraded Mia to a new 5-point harness car seat which is bigger obviously, and what I really wanted, reclinable. That is in Dubai, because in Lebanon we're using one that was generously lent to us. However, when Mia falls asleep in the car, she's too upright to be comfortable and her neck and head keep dropping as the car moves. We've tested the reclinable one in Dubai and it's perfect: when she falls asleep, she can lie back in a relaxed position with her neck, head and back supported. 

Mia in her new reclined Maxi-Cosi

3) A stroller and my take on baby carriers

We got our stroller in Dubai as well, from Baby Shop [City Mall 01.872999]. It is the Quinny Buzz 4 which is highly robust, can climb on just about anything and is perfect for Lebanon's (off)roads! The most important feature to me would be the option of placing the seat either facing the parent or facing the road as per your preference. Also, it allows the child to sit completely upright or lie completely horizontal which is more comfortable should baby fall asleep during a walk and you can't get back home immediately. And last but not least, the one-handle. This is a tiny detail that people usually don't pay attention to but it turned out to be so practical: you can "drive" this stroller with one hand which is perfect if say, you're sipping coffee or talking on the phone while strolling. Of course, the two handles usually come in handy when you are carrying bags and you'd like to hang them but I managed to find a solution: there are hooks that you can attach almost anywhere on the bar and that you can use to hang anything. In any case, Quinny has its own changing bag which can be stored at the bottom, between the two biggest wheels (see previous image above of car-seat mounted on Quinny) so I don't need to worry about hanging it. 

With Mia, we also tried the baby carrier which to be completely honest we only used three or four times at most. No matter what brand you choose, there will be back pain issues for you and comfort issues for your baby. But just in case you're wondering, we got the BabyBjörn carrier. 

Our Quinny Buzz
(the new model is slightly different)


Our latest purchase, also from Dubai's Baby Shop [City Mall 01.872999] is a Chicco which can recline completely to become perfectly horizontal; and it is to me a necessity when we spend more than three hours outside. Kids will fall asleep so we might as well keep them comfortable so we don't have to rush or sink in stress. 

Both strollers have an adjustable 5-point harness.

Mia's Chicco Liteway
Mia's Chicco Liteway reclined

4) Baby clothes and bed accessories

The first thing you'll need at the hospital is an outfit for that new bundle of cuteness. I know it's always fun to buy baby clothes and you want to get everything because they're all so cute! Well don't. You'll never use them. Take into account that clothes are the most common gifts so you can bet you'll have more than baby can use. And more importantly, those newborn clothes will only fit for a couple of weeks, maybe three tops. 

All you need really, are good quality cotton undergarments and pajamas. No matter how cute the outfits in those stores are, don't fall for it! Newborns will only be comfortable in their pajamas, even when they go out. I get all my kids' undergarments at Baby Shop [City Mall 01.872999] because the cotton's good, they're all white which means I can bleach them if and when needed (Carter's has really cute onesies but they are all colored so you can't bleach them) and last but not least, they're cheap. Newborns will wear those only for a few weeks so it is really a waste to get expensive ones. I don't really like the pajamas designs at Baby Shop which is why I got most of my stuff from Carter's [03.82058] and Mothercare where I also got all my sheets and blankets. Don't forget your baby's receiving blankets which will help carry your newborn on those scary first days. You can also find Carter's and other brands (some even much more luxurious) for discounted prices at Brands For Less [Ein Elrimeneh 01.290862 | Jnah 01.842885]. I'm a fan of both their Dubai and Lebanon shops. In Beirut, Glowbal [Raoucheh 01.792709 | Tayouneh 01.391660] also offers a wide variety of discounted brands. You can't always find everything there but you'll definitely make some interesting discoveries.

Mothercare branches:

ABC Centre
Dbayeh
Level 2
Dbayeh 
Tel: 00 9614 522664
ABC Centre, Ashrafieh
ABC Mall Ashrafieh
Level 1
Beirut 
Tel: 00961 1 320581
ABC Mall Dbayeh
ABC Mall Dbayeh
Beirut 
Tel: +961 4522661
BHV City Mall
City Mall
Dora High Way
Beirut 
Tel: 00 961 1 885083
Souk Soldier
Souk Soldier
Beirut 
Tel: +961 1990410
Spinneys
Jnah Msaitbeh
Beirut 
Tel: 00961 1 825962
Verdun Centre 
Verdun Centre - 730, Ground Floor
Verdun Street
Beirut 
Tel: 00 961 1 788705
Fax: 00 961 1 788704

5) Bath necessities

A friend gifted us our baby tub from Mothercare but honestly, I feel they're overpriced. This is the kind of things you can easily find at a local shop in Lebanon for much less. After all, it's only a large plastic bucket! Most of the towels were also gifts and I got a few from Mothercare only because of the shop's proximity to my home. As for the shampoo and bath products, I use Mustella and BBcomBIO Organic which I find at my neighborhood pharmacy.

6) Bottles and sterilizers

Obviously, baby's gotta eat or more accurately, drink. I've tried all sorts of bottles from glass to plastic, long to short, and large to small. And all the brands I found interesting (Avent, Nuk, MAM, Nuby and Tommee Tippee). Some will argue glass bottles are healthier, which is most probably true. But they are so heavy and trust me, when you're waking up for that 3am feeding and you can't even open your eyes you end up feeding baby while you're asleep, that glass bottle will feel like it's the size of the Raouche Rock. 

So after trying Avent then Nuby then Tommee Tippee then Nuk then MAM, I finally got back to Avent again. The first few weeks, their smallest bottles work well and then you can keep them for water later on, when they become too small for a feeding. When Mia's intake got at its highest point, I had to upgrade to the biggest bottles because my children do not take breaks when they feed. If we stop for burping, they quit feeding. Now we're on the middle size bottles which are big enough for a feeding (less than before since Mia's eating solid foods now) but still small enough for Mia to hold the bottle by herself. Glass bottles by the way can never be held by children. I think all in all, the most important criteria is for whatever brand you choose to be Bisphenol-free (BPA free). 

We got the Avent Digital Steam Sterilizer which fits six large bottles. I used it with all the bottles I got, regardless of their brand as it is large enough to accommodate all sizes and shapes. When I went to Dubai for a few days with Mia and left Jad in Lebanon (with the sterilizer) hubby got a smaller, faster one which also fits six bottles, but not the largest ones: Avent Microwave Steam Sterilizer.

Avent Digital Steam Sterilizer
Avent Microwave Steam Sterilizer

In Lebanon, I purchase all bottles, pacifiers and their accessories from the comfort of my home. Mazen Pharmacy [01.300444 | 01.313369 | 01.313362] can home-deliver any and all baby products as they have a "Baby Gallery" in addition to the standard pharmacy. So when I prepared for Mia's arrival, I ordered over the phone the bottles, sterilizer, breast pump, bottle warmer (which I never used) and even the monitor from Mazen Pharmacy who delivered everything to my home within the hour. The only disadvantage is that home-delivery implies cash payment which can be a little too much when purchasing all these items at once. However, typically, all these products must be sold for the same price nationwide so why not take advantage of the home-delivery system?

Avent Bottles
Avent Bottle Warmer
Avent Breast Pump
Avent Baby Monitor

7) Pharmacy 


My neighborhood pharmacist supplies me with all the necessary daily products we use such as formulas, diapers, wipes, shampoo, creams, oil, etc. However, and it happens more often than you'd like when babies are involved, in case of emergency it is always important to keep nearby the numbers of a 24/7 pharmacy. In my case, I use Mazen Pharmacy [01.300444 | 01.313369 | 01.313362] which is the most helpful in Beirut and they deliver at all hours, every day of the week.

My advice would be to always keep at home a thermometer (my review), electric nasal aspirator (my review), Panadol Baby, Tylenol suppositories for the bigger babies, Profenal, and cool patches (my review). Get some disposable syringes that you can use to dispense syrups. Sometimes you won't have time (or the energy in the middle of the night) to clean the single dispenser included in the medication box. The good thing about these disposable syringes is that they are made of the same material as the bottles and can be sterilized too so you can reuse them as needed.

Also save SOS Médecins Lebanon's numbers: 01.344444 and 03.344444 in case you need a doctor's assistance at home (24/7).


To conclude,

Try not to buy too much before baby's arrival. In the next few weeks following your return home, you will start receiving many congratulatory gifts so wait a little before you can sit and quietly review what you really need. Truth be told, your baby will not really need anything the first few weeks of his life aside from his diapers, feedings and baths (some special attention and care must of course be given to the umbilical cord). 


To give you an evidence for the aforementioned advice, we were gifted the very useful steam blender by Avent which cooks and blends solid foods all at the same time. You will find it is useful because regular size blenders require larger portions of food to blend properly while this one is small enough for the blades to blend a single portion. Also, the fact that it cooks the food at the same time is such a time-saver (less containers to clean). 


Other items such as changing bags, bouncers, activity centers with or without wheels, baby gyms and playmats, and even bath pads (for babies who can sit) and bath supports (super helpful with newborns) and many other cool stuff all make for really great gifts so don't rush to buy them just yet. Not to mention the countless clothes which will require a new dedicated closet! ;)

And finally, don't forget to charge your camera and video-cam every night and keep them nearby at all times ;) All the geeks out there will confirm: get an external storage device because your laptops, tablets and phones will never be enough! Have fun! ;)



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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

The results are in!



CONGRATS!


Let me start by thanking everyone who participated! YOU GUYS ROCK! ;)

As promised, there was a draw today. To make it easy, I numbered all the comments in the order they were posted and displayed by Facebook.

I took carambar candies and numbered them. In order to keep it fair, I chose only one color of wrapping: yellow. There is a total of 10 comments. The first entry being mine, I did not include "1" in the draw. So as you will see, each carambar has been numbered from "2" to "10". Then I randomly threw the candies on Mia's bed and waited for her to hand me one. If you're curious to know, Mia is my baby daughter. She is one and half and obviously cannot read or count yet so she cannot know what she is picking, making her the ideal person to complete the draw. So to her, it was just a bunch of identical carambars. I chose them all from the same flavor so that they have the same wrapping color to make sure one color did not attract her more than another and keep the draw fair. And I kept asking her to hand me one, until she finally did.That one carambar decides who the winner is :)Just so you know how everything went, the video is not edited. It is not cut. It starts with all the carambars on the table so you can see them and their numbering. Then I pick them up in front of the camera and bring them to Mia and wait for the one she picks. 

One shot. One carambar. One winner ;)

CONGRATS TO THE WINNER! ;)
 



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Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Red Carpet Papa: Avant-Premiere

Red carpets. Glam. Glitter. Hollywood. 'Tis the season for all the beautiful people to make us dream and wish we were walking in their Loubs. 

Now we may not be able to star next to Brad and Georgie in the upcoming Ocean's because, and that's the only reason why, Soderbergh decided to end it otherwise, we'd be sitting at script reading right now; however, we can still shine in our very own production! Who needs Soderbergh anyway, am I right?

I am right and here's why.

Mumtrepreneur Deema Mokayed who happens to be one of the coolest friends I met back in college, has moved on from her work in TV to launch her very own production joint in Beirut, Lebanon a few years ago.

Photo: OneEleven

She's come up with a wonderful concept that offers anyone the opportunity to star in their very own film. Deema will put on screen any story you like and for any occasion.

Watch Video Here

And since Father's Day is approaching in Lebanon (June 21st) how about creating a unique gift this year? Children can make a film or record songs in the studio and why not, turn them into a CD which would be perfect for daddy to loop in his car, every day on his way to work.

Photo: OneEleven

In a nutshell OneEleven can personalize any audio/video to make your celebrations extra special so why don't you visit OneEleven's website now or drop a line on Facebook?

And share your productions with us, we'd love to get a glimpse of your creative side! ;)

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And don't forget our partner, McBears Parties is giving away 500 dirhams worth of goodies so check our contest and send us your entries now! The voucher is valid for 12 months and transferable, so you can gift it to anyone you'd like ;)



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Tuesday, June 12, 2012

*CONTEST INSIDE* Bear-ty Time!



Our partner for the next two weeks, McBears Parties is offering you the chance to win 500 Dirhams worth of goodies! 

If "Partying like a Bear" didn't mean anything before, it does now ;)


All you have to do is tell us your most embarrassing moment at a party. It's all in good fun and you can be the lucky winner of an amazing Party Package worth 500 Dirhams!

Scroll down for instructions, terms and conditions ;)


Who is Mama Bear? 
After spending six years in the event management and PR industry I had to take a break from work due to the birth of my twins. After a while I found I could do something extra with the time on hand besides looking after my children. And that is how the seed of McBears sprouted.


Sheryl Carneiro, the brains and heart behind McBears Parties
Photo: McBears Parties

What led you to this concept?
Basically, I found myself wasting after the birth of my twin boys. I decided I would put my time to best use, and after the initial hesitation, I went ahead with the McBears. The name originates from my two twin boys, My Bears. A major part of the credit goes to friends and family who have supported me during this period. People have given me ideas and I have ventured forward and tried things out with a lot of success. And of course, there is Someone above who guides me.

When did you launch and where in the Emirates do you operate?
McBears is hardly two months young. I operate in Dubai. It was like a seed that was sprouting within myself and finally it took me that one final push to go ahead and make it a reality. Since the launch I have been really busy. Lot of potential for a good job!

Introduce McBears and the products and services you offer.
We offer party decoration with ballons, theme decorations, complete with table set-up, gifts, banners, face painting, party host, etc. We also provide party favors for special occasions and kids fancy dress costumes.

Party decorations, costumes and more
Photos: McBears Parties
Image Credit: R. Abouzeid

How does McBears operate? 
Most of my operation is via social media forums like Facebook and Twitter. Clients can always contact me on my phone as well. A major part of my clientele is obtained by word of mouth as the hallmark of my operation is the best of service. I make a promise, I keep the promise: nothing in-between.

In one word, if you were: 

A color?  Mauve
A shape? Circle
A song or music composition? Coward of the County
A film? The Ten Commandments
A book or literary piece? Books by James Joyce and poems and works of PB Shelley
A famous character (real or fictional)? Pooh


Image: R. Abouzeid

COMPETITION INSTRUCTIONS

To enter the draw,
  • LIKE us on Facebook!  
  • LIKE McBears Parties on Facebook! 
  • Tell us about the most embarrassing moment you had a party by posting your story under our note on Facebook. 
  • A draw will take place on June 26, 2012 to select a winner 
  • The winner will be announced on this space!

Terms and Conditions

  • This competition will run for 14 days following the date/time of this blog post.
  • A draw will identify the winner. There can only be one winner. The name of the winner will be posted on our Facebook page.
  • Missing entries and entries from contestants who fail to complete all the instructions above in totality will be disqualified. 
  • The winner will be offered a 500 UAE Dirham voucher.
  • This voucher is transferrable. If you are the owner of this voucher, kindly email Mc Bears with the name and contact information of this voucher's recipient and inform them of the following terms and conditions. 
  • This voucher is redeemable at Mc Bears for a Party Package only and includes party decorations, balloons and table set-up for a total worth of 500 AED. Products are subjects to availability. 
  • This voucher is not partially redeemable and must be redeemed in full, for its total amount once only. 
  • If purchase exceeds available voucher balance, you must make up difference with another payment method. You are liable for all transactions on your voucher except to extent to which there has been fraud or negligence by Mc Bears or any of Mc Bears employees. 
  • This voucher is redeemable in the UAE only. All inclusive for Dubai residents. Residents of other emirates must arrange for transportation of the goods.
  • This voucher is non-refundable. 
  • This voucher is not exchangeable for cash. 
  • This voucher is valid for 12 months from the date of issue. Credit and validity extensions will not be given for unutilized and unclaimed vouchers. 
  • This voucher is a sample copy. Kindly call or email Mc Bears to set an appointment, book a date for your party, select the products of your preference (products are subject to availability) and redeem your voucher. 
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Monday, June 4, 2012

Mercy... Et Merci

I could not write this story before because all I needed was to forget. 

We all face the same issues. We brag about how good we are when we succeed but then we try to hide those times when we fail like it is some kind of taboo to make mistakes. Like it makes us bad parents. But I feel it is important for parents and human beings in general to share difficult situations and failures as it makes other parents feel more "normal". Less judged. And hopefully less judgemental. Because no matter what we do and how hard we try, we are all going to make mistakes eventually. 

This one I almost made yesterday could have cost me my sanity, and probably my life. But thankfully I was well surrounded and got the immediate help I needed. And I am so grateful. But I still can not shake the guilt off. And it will take me a while to put this behind me, if I ever can.

Yesterday I was having a blast playing with Jad. He loves to play now. He is at this age when he constantly calls people to come to him and just (baby)talk. And maybe it is because he is my son and my love but I just find him irresistible. So I oblige (we all do). Only problem is, when he gets too happy and excited, he gets the hiccups. Not the cute kind. His and Mia's are unbelievably viscious. They last forever and the tiniest hic feels like an earthquake. Of course, it usually happens after feedings which makes it impossible for us to convince them to have a sip, not even a drop of whatever we are prepared to offer. And we are usually prepared to give anything, provided they agree to drink. But it is a fact: a full baby will not drink a thing. Then I remember I had not given him his vitamins and decide it could be a good time as it would hopefully help put an end to his hiccups fest. So I fill the medicine dropper and place it in the corner of his mouth and just squeeze a little. He looks at me differently and I know he just got a taste. Then he smiles the biggest of smiles. So I figure, he swallowed. He gives me a little "gheu" and I reply. And suddenly he turns red and he coughs. But not really. He tries to cough but it feels like he can not. He looks at me and all I can see is fear in his eyes. I see his eyes stare at mine, begging for me to help. To do something. So I grab him by the armpits and raise him out of his chair (thank God I always remember to unbuckle him when I feed him something). Nothing. He still tries to cough but it just will not come out! And he turns purple. Darker and darker. All the time his little eyes just staring in mine, begging. Begging for help. And I am fucking useless. So I scream for my mom to come and she and my dad run and grab him. They raise him all the while tapping his back and massaging his forehead. Still nothing. He just can not catch a breath. In the seconds that follow and which seem to last an eternity, all I can see are his little eyes, staring. Begging. Then finally, he cries. The fear is still there though, comfortably lingering in his eyes and it stays there for a while even after he is OK. 

A fear I could not destroy. I simply let Jad down. I simply failed him.

I do not know how long it took. But I know I died a little. 

Now every time I remember, all I can see are his eyes. His stare. Begging for help. And all I can do is cry. Because now, it has passed. Now, there is nothing (useful or not) to be done. 

I do not know if things would have been the same had I been alone at home. Maybe my mommy-survival-instincts would have been sharper. More efficient. One can only hope. In the meantime, I am grateful I was well surrounded and thank God Jad is fine. 

How fragile. How small. How helpless. 
I just pray God Has mercy on my children and all children.

It will take me a few more nights to be able to sleep normally.







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Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Safety First: Fire

I am haunted since last night.

In light of the unbelievably tragic event that shook Qatar yesterday when its biggest shopping mall saw a fire claim nineteen lives, including thirteen children and two firefighters as per Al Jazeera's report, I think we should all pay more attention to safety measures in public places. 

How sad that it usually takes a tragedy to wake people up but I too, like many others, tend to take safety for granted and dismiss the (boring) instructions we are sometimes forced to listen to over and over.

Photo: Al Jazeera

As an expat living in the UAE, I do my fair share of traveling and I am ashamed to say, when I am in a plane and those safety guidelines videos start to play, I usually turn a blind eye and a deaf ear. I cannot remember the last time I picked up that safety leaflet and reviewed those life-saving instructions.

Since I turned "mom" and travel with kids, I do make sure to check where emergency exits are though, both in airplanes and any new location we visit. I acquired that habit when I read an article about hotel safety. But that is definitely not enough. 

And to think that because one is familiar with certain rules, in an airplane for instance, is enough is simply irresponsible. I understand that more than ever today. 

Unfortunately, in a state of panic, one can hardly remember one's own name, let alone a set of regulations! And ironically, this is when we need that brain to function full-throttle. So there is no harm in taking a minute or two to refresh that memory of ours every time we find ourselves in a location where we are advised to do so.

Just a couple of weeks ago, Mia and I returned to Dubai for a few days to complete some residency paperwork and due to the heated weather, we ended up spending all of our time indoors. That included play areas and shopping malls. We are quite lucky to live in Motor City where the community is booming with family and children friendly locations. So we do not have to spend entire days at the mall. 

However, we did swing by Mall of the Emirates to meet some friends once and we took Mia to Magic Planet which is not your usual play area. It is a huge entertainment center within the mall! I always am uncomfortable when I go there because it is too dark, extremely noisy and the passageways between the game stands are a bit narrow so you always bump into other people. They have a nursery there too with a soft play area for the littler ones. It took me a while to locate it because it is sort of hidden in a corner, inside an aisle, and one enters it like, em, well like a cave.

Photo: Magic Planet

I will not go as far as to claim Magic Planet is a death trap but at times of emergency, one better be prepared and aware of all emergency exits and how to reach them or the chaos will simply make it impossible to get out, let alone save lives.

This does not apply to the Gulf only. Shopping malls are relatively new in Lebanon but they have become a favored outlet for families, especially now that temperatures are rising. Those living in the city need spaces for their children to romp and unfortunately, parks and "green" spaces are scarce in Beirut. 

I am certain the staff has been trained (and possibly even more now following that horrific event) but I know for a fact, parents do not enjoy such trainings. So we need to make sure we educate ourselves before we place our loved ones in potentially harmful situations. 

Get acquainted with the mall, if you do not know it well, ask. There are Info stations everywhere and they can answer any query and hand out maps as well. Know your emergency exits. If you cannot find them, ask. Make sure you understand where to go and what to do in case of emergency. If you do not know that information already, ask.

You simply can never ask enough.
And in such instances, there are no stupid question.

Leaving our little ones in the care of strangers is without a doubt daunting to any parent. Reading about tragedies such as Qatar in the news does not help. At all. Actually, it made me even more paranoid. That is why it is important to always make sure the venues we chose properly train their staff and apply safety regulations which are approved by the authorities and based on international standards.

Photo: R. Abouzeid

I know it is common practice nowadays to leave the children with the nanny in those places. Bear in mind that these ladies are usually employed to help with housework which means they have no training to qualify as educators. Some of them do not even have children and most come from rural, poor areas which means they are not familiar with safety guidelines.

So if you have to leave your children in their care, make sure you educate them just as you would do your own self. If they are to be in charge, they should be equipped with a minimum knowledge or cannot and should not be held accountable. After all, they never pretended to be something they are not.

And this applies to requirements at home as well. So many parents work and rely on in-house help to babysit their children. That necessitate both parents and all adults residing under that roof to be in complete knowledge and control of safety measures at home.

When we first moved in our apartment at Motor City, the whole community was new and the buildings had not been previously inhabited. Which means that everything, including fire alarms, were being tested by the new residents (us).

The false alarms went off so often, within a month only two or three people would eventually evacuate the premises! So many families with children would stay in their apartments until the issue was resolved. But how could they know for certain it was a false alarm? Yes, there were (a lot of) technical glitches with the system, but that does not mean the risk of a real fire was gone completely.

Leading by example is key. If you do not make the responsible move to evacuate, then in your absence your employee might think there is no harm in ignoring alarms as well, and your children might even show resistance when asked to do so. We all now our little ones love to mimic us. So establish good habits from the start and make sure you never compromise or skip a life-saving instruction.

And never, ever lock people in the house. They should always have a way out in case of emergency. I have seen this practice way too often and honestly cannot comprehend it. Aside from the fact that I find it outrageous, I do not understand why someone would welcome people to live in their home when they do not trust them.

Image: R. Abouzeid

Finally, always keep emergency numbers (police, fire, medical) somewhere visible. I like to write them on a sticker placed at the back of the phone. My mom prefers writing them on a wall in the kitchen. Whether you post them on your fridge, your bedroom mirror, or save them on the phone itself always make sure you tell the adult in charge about them and how to use the phone.

If your children are old enough to stay at home by themselves, they should also know these instructions.

LEBANON
  • Red Cross / Croix Rouge: 140 
  • Police: 112 
  • Civil Defense / Défense Civile: 125 
  • Fire Brigade / Pompiers: 175 
  • Information: 1515
DUBAI
  • Ambulance and Police 999 
  • Fire 997 
  • Emergency Services +97142232323 
  • Al-Ameen - report a crime or suspicious activities: 8004888
  • Dubai Municipality Emergency Number +97142232323 
  • Electricity and Water 991 
  • Airport Enquiries +97142066666 


I would like to end this post with a thought for the families of victims in Doha and a prayer for all those who lost their life in that tragic event. May their soul rest in peace and may God have mercy on all of us and protect our children and all children from harm, always.





BE SAFE EVERYONE!


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Ain't no *wall* high enough!

One of our neighbors at Motor City, mom-of-two Sereen Goussous chose to leave the luxuries of her comfortable life in Dubai for  six unusual days in China. But not on vacation.

She had approached the community back in February to introduce a fantastic cause and her commitment to hike the Great Wall in order to raise awareness and funds for the visually impaired orphans at the Bethel Foundation.

Image: Dubai Motor City Residents

Now she is back and we are so jealous of her amazing adventure we decided to get the next best thing and have her tell us all about it. Curious?

So who is Sereen Goussous? I'm thirty-six years old and I come from Jordan. I have two kids, Zaid, six years old and Kristina, three years old. I have been married for ten years to Waleed Halasa. He is my best friend. Currently I am a house wife.

Have you been in Dubai long? I have been in Dubai for 5 years.

How did you learn about Gulf for Good? I was reading an article in Gulf News about them and I went to their website and just got hooked since. They provide the perfect package. You help kids around the world by staying fit and challenging yourself.

Image: Gulf For Good

What drove you to take the challenge? I love nature and outdoors so much and at the same I love to help kids in need so as I said it was the perfect package for me.

What were the pre-requisites to be admitted in the challenge? Anybody who is in good shape and health can join the challenge. It is open to anyone from the Gulf countries.

You had to raise some money before the trip, how did you go about this first challenge? I was actually lucky in raising my funds as I had one sole sponsor which is great.

How did you physically and mentally prepare? I started training three months in advance. I aimed for three times a week in a gym and I enlisted the help of a personal trainer which was great and extremely helpful.

Image: Gulf For Good

You are a mom, what goes through your mind when you are away from your children and leave your family behind, even if it is only for a few days? It was very difficult to leave them behind since they are so small and it was my first time doing it but it was for a great cause and everyone has to sacrifice in order for us to help our fellow human beings. I didn't have any signal so I couldn't talk to them which made it even harder but both of them understand very well why I left and what am I going to do and they very proud of me.

How did your husband and children react when you told them you were taking the challenge? My husband and kids were extremely supportive when I told them that I would like to take this challenge. My husband encouraged me a lot and actually kept telling me don't worry about us at all we are all going to be fine just try as much as possible to enjoy your time.

As a mother, how did you feel meeting children in need when we do all we can to protect our own little ones from harm? Can you tell us a little about the orphanage? It was very difficult and an emotional day for me. Because seeing a picture of a blind orphan is much more different than actually holding and hugging him in your arms... It just makes it so real. I felt so sad for them that they don't have any parents and that some of them actually have but they abandoned them because they were blind which just broke my heart. The orphanage is run by a french man and his wife. He has turned the orphanage into a home for these kids and has put lots of effort and love into it. The orphanage is called Bethel Foundation. 

Tell us a few words about China, did you have a hard time adjusting? Chinese people are very friendly and polite. I didn't have any problem adjusting. I considered the trip a learning experience to me. I just loved the whole experience.

Image: Gulf For Good

Even though you prepared physically and emotionally, how did it feel when you found yourself on that wall? The first day was very hard as we had to climb around 300 steps and I was exhausted by the end of the day. But eventually you try as much as possible to keep pushing yourself as you know that you are doing it for the sake of these kids. It was an amazing journey and adventure.

Who were your teammates? We were twenty-three people in total from fourteen different nationalities including nine arabs from all different walks of life. The oldest was fifty-seven and the youngest was twenty-four. We were a great team!


Image: Guf For Good

Now that you are back home, looking at that experience from a distance, how do you rate it? What did you learn about yourself? What did you gain as a person? It was one of the most fulfilling things that I have ever done in my life. I challenged myself and gained new self confidence and met many inspirational people. It made my kids proud of me which means that I have been a positive role model to them. It made my husband proud of me which brought us closer. It made me happy and satisfied about myself because I now know that I was able to make a difference, even if it is small, to the lives of these kids.

Would you do it again? Definitely if I had the chance again I will do it again and again!  



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